To the mom who looks at the insurmountable disaster that is the current state of her home and because of it, feels like she’s failing at everything… you’re not alone.
To the mom living life in 2-3 hour increments with a nursing babe…you’re not alone.
To the mom who looks across the church sanctuary at another mom who’s got perfectly curled hair, painted toe nails, and well behaved children while your hair is still wet from your rushed shower, your toenail polish has seen better days, and you want to sink into the floor because of how your kids have been behaving and you are tempted to compare…you’re not alone.
To the mom who’s got crumbs, stuffed animals, snack wrappers, an overflowing waste basket, and old Sunday school papers littering her van…you’re not alone.
To the mom feeling guilty for how much screen time your kids have seen in a particular day…you’re not alone.
To the mom grabbing her school age child’s next day outfit out of a laundry basket of clothes that have yet to be put away, among several other loads that need to be folded…you’re not alone.
To the mom trying not to lose her patience with her preschool age child who is still struggling with potty training…you’re not alone.
To the mom who sees that meal planning is coming up yet again and feels a sense of dread at the thought of well….all the thought…you’re not alone.
To the mom who wants to get in shape but finds it hard to wake up early to work out and would rather watch Netflix when the kids are in bed…you’re not alone.
To the mom who’s diaper bag and purse are one in the same-look out, it’s a jungle in there…you’re not alone.
To the mom who feels like she just can’t do this thing called motherhood a second longer…good news…you’re NOT alone!!!
Fellow moms, I don’t know how you’ve been feeling lately but I’ve been feeling downright weary in my motherhood and like I just can’t manage it all. If the state of my home had a report card, let’s just say it’d be a C at best. A dear friend of mine reminded me recently that I am not alone. There are so many moms out there with the same struggles-feeling like we have to juggle so many balls in the air but are powerless to keep them all spinning in the air.
You know what? That’s ok! In fact as I’m typing this I have my unhappy 8 month old on my lap and I’m typing with one finger. How’s that for real life? One piece of scripture that I feel the Lord keeps bringing to my mind when I feel I am failing (particularly at managing the household) is found in 2 Corinithians 12:9-10. It says ”But he said to me, ‘my grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.’ Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me. That is why for Christ’s sake, I delight in weaknesses, in insults, in hardships, in persecutions, in difficulties. For when I am weak, then I am strong.”
If Christ’s grace is sufficient for me, I do not need to feel like a failure when I look around at my messy house. I can choose to show myself grace, fight perfection, and keep in mind that I am raising 3 little humans that occupy much of my time and energy. So, I may cringe every time I go into our bathroom, wondering when I’ll find the time to actually clean it. I may have stacks of dirty dishes in my kitchen, and I may show up to church with wet hair, but I know that I can keep pressing on in the strength of the Lord!
I’ll leave you with one more verse to remind you that you’re not alone:
Isaiah 40:11 ”…he gently leads those that have young.”
P.S. If you’re looking for a great podcast on faith and motherhood, check out the Don’t Mom Alone podcast on Spotify-I love it and it’s a great motivator for me when tackling things like doing the dishes 😉
3 thoughts on “To the Mom Who…You’re Not Alone”
This too will pass and when your house clean and in order you will miss those that grew up and left. God bless you for doing what you do. I say when I visit others with little ones I am here to see you not your house.
Oh, you are taking me back to the days when I was raising my 3 little ones Anna! One day, you will look back and not remember so much the constant stressors of raising little ones, and trying to juggle that, along with household demands, and wanting to love your husband well. You will see your children bearing the fruit of you training them up in the ways of the Lord. It will come.
I so wish I was closer to help and just share time together.
Keep praising and thanking God each day for the hard and messy things in each day. It lifts our eyes to Him, the author and finisher of our faith! He has you Anna, He has you.
You are doing a great job. Your know kids and husband love you lots, and it shows. Really, really!